Comments on: HNT: Butch/Femme?

By: HNT: Faceless « Perfect Lips, Flawless Fingertips

HNT: Faceless « Perfect Lips, Flawless Fingertips — Thu, 19 Feb 2009 17:31:30 +0000

[...] It was Wilhelmina who got me thinking about doing my own HNTs. The first post of hers I saw was Butch/Femme? [...]

By: Wilhelmina

Wilhelmina — Sun, 02 Nov 2008 01:10:27 +0000

Re: SublimeFemme – Mixing butch/femme is probably something that will keep surfacing in this blog… both because I feel quite androgynous (mentally/emotionally at least, and in the way I dress act, but bodily and in many other ways I also feel very female) and I tend to be attracted to androgynous or gender-atypical people.

I just saw your post – gonna read it right now =)

By: sublimefemme

sublimefemme — Sat, 01 Nov 2008 21:52:24 +0000

I agree with your post entirely and am really glad you wrote it. Although as you know my blog is about theorizing femme ID, one of the important points I’ve been trying to make is that butch and femme should not be seen as mutually exclusive categories. As I wrote last month, the dyke/queer/bi woman who mixes butch and femme styles and expressions isn’t confused, she’s sexy! I think we need more women writing about this, so I hope you’ll continue to explore these ideas.

I have an upcoming post that takes up the issue of “labels” and addresses issues you bring up here, so I hope you’ll check it out. I discuss how it feels as a femme to have my gender called a “label” and the importance of respecting everyone’s self-identifications (which I know you do), even if you do not ID that way yourself.

xo
Sf

By: perfectlips

perfectlips — Tue, 21 Oct 2008 21:07:45 +0000

Just found your blog (from Honey’s Hive). I completely agree with this post. These gender pigeonholes are inhuman.

A while ago the International Academy of Sex Research (no, really!) had their annual conference with a session on gender non-conformity. I like the idea of being a gender non-conformist.

Nice blog. I’m off to read some more.

By: wogo

wogo — Mon, 20 Oct 2008 06:29:15 +0000

The jeans/boxers/belly is really hot. Something about the gender mix is great – the image of man-clothes, your smooth girl-abdomen, and the idea of your nether lips underneath is quite a combination. Thanks.

By: Wilhelmina

Wilhelmina — Sun, 19 Oct 2008 18:25:55 +0000

Thanks everyone =)

Hmm, confusion is always good =)

I can see why the labels are there and why people would identify with them – i.e. both are reactions to conventional, heteronormative gender expressions – though I’ve never actually met someone who overtly called themselves ‘butch’ or ‘femme’. But if you can’t define yourself – or don’t want to – that’s fine too, I think.

By: Geoff & Rose

Geoff & Rose — Sat, 18 Oct 2008 11:49:50 +0000

Rose tells me off for referring to her friends as butch or femme, saying labels don’t apply now. We thought your photo lovely, whatever label anyone might use.
Geoff

By: merlin17

merlin17 — Fri, 17 Oct 2008 22:35:38 +0000

I know a lesbian who prefers feminine-looking lovers but dresses that way herself. There’s nothing wrong with presenting yourself to others the way you feel that day . . . in or out of your clothes.

By: bentcrude

bentcrude — Fri, 17 Oct 2008 19:31:14 +0000

well you don’t have to pick any label at all, i think

By: d2b

d2b — Fri, 17 Oct 2008 18:51:35 +0000

Butch and femme and definitely extremly sexy (confuses me too that I liked the butch part)