also i saw that you were moving… thanks for letting me know where you are

While the results appear the same from the outside– someone that’s fucking (sometimes many) people, they really are two very different actions. Someone sexually liberated is having sex for the fun of it, for the enjoyment of it, to feel good, and just because they want to. They may go through phases where they sleep around more or less. This is not unhealthy or self-destructive, as long as they don’t regret their decisions and still feel good about themselves in the morning.

Someone using sex to seek validation and affirmation *is* using sex in an unhealthy and ultimately self-destructive way. They’re seeking sex to fix something about themselves that they don’t like. They don’t feel pretty or attractive unless someone wants them, which probably means that they don’t feel pretty or attractive in general. It never fixes anything, because once the sex stops or doesn’t happen, your self-worth goes back into the toilet.

I’ve been both of those people. At times, I still become the person that uses sex for validation. But it feels so much better to be that other person, that fucks for the sake and enjoyment of fucking. I’m glad that you’ve arrived at this place. It’s a much more affirming place to be then the other, no? And many people are never able to make this distinction. Enjoy it, lady!