Comments on: Contest: Gender Carnival!

By: Pleasurists #54 : Tales from the Porn Store

Pleasurists #54 : Tales from the Porn Store — Sat, 16 Jan 2010 16:34:21 +0000

[...] Gender Carnival! Deadline: November 21st @ midnight Eastern. [...]

By: Pleasurists #53 : Tales from the Porn Store

Pleasurists #53 : Tales from the Porn Store — Sat, 16 Jan 2010 16:31:00 +0000

[...] Gender Carnival! Deadline: November 21st @ midnight Eastern. [...]

By: Pleasurists #53 « a sex blog by Dani Darling

Pleasurists #53 « a sex blog by Dani Darling — Thu, 14 Jan 2010 20:15:28 +0000

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By: Pleasurists #52 | Insatiable Desire

Pleasurists #52 | Insatiable Desire — Mon, 11 Jan 2010 12:47:49 +0000

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By: Licentiously Yours

Licentiously Yours — Wed, 16 Dec 2009 21:35:58 +0000

[...] Gender Carnival! Deadline: November 21st @ midnight Eastern. [...]

By: Adriana

Adriana — Thu, 26 Nov 2009 16:42:53 +0000

Luckily (or maybe just blissfully ignorant), I don’t focus on it so it’s not life altering. I suppose that because I just don’t fit into the ultra feminine gender stereotypes, I feel a bit of a poser like I have no right to say “I am woman, here me roar”. I guess it’s been drilled into my head that to be womanly is to be able to be described with terms like “feminine mystique” or “dangerous curves” – words that evoke thoughts of both physique and personality. I don’t fill out either very well but I have always struggled with a bit of insecurity when it comes to applying labels to myself. I have to be uber-womanly in order to use the word at all. Perhaps that is why I have such trouble calling myself a “woman” – I use girl or female more often. But maybe this is all an issue of sex vs gender.

Ironically enough, I am listening to Portishead’s “Glory Box” the lyrics of which include the line “give me a reason to be a woman.” Heh
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By: Wilhelmina Wang

Wilhelmina Wang — Thu, 26 Nov 2009 02:30:05 +0000

i’m glad that you still feel that way after dealing with all that negativity

By: Wilhelmina Wang

Wilhelmina Wang — Thu, 26 Nov 2009 02:19:11 +0000

i really like what you have to say about labels/categories… i think they have their uses, but most people take them way too seriously. labels in the end are simple and don’t sufficiently encompass all the nuances of any one person as a whole being.

thanks!

By: Wilhelmina Wang

Wilhelmina Wang — Thu, 26 Nov 2009 02:15:39 +0000

hmm, you’re one person out of many so far who expressed discomfort with how society deals with gender.

By: Wilhelmina Wang

Wilhelmina Wang — Thu, 26 Nov 2009 02:14:01 +0000

right, i’m glad that you’re experimenting and your gf is so supportive and helpful with that. personally i wish that gender roles were less constraining. i wish men COULD do things like create art or do non-typically-masculine things and not be considered any less of a man.