Comments on: Things I should have said http://heartbreaknympho.com/2010/02/09/things-i-should-have-said/ fuck the pain away Wed, 08 Sep 2010 05:11:20 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Wilhelmina Wang http://heartbreaknympho.com/2010/02/09/things-i-should-have-said/comment-page-1/#comment-1927 Wilhelmina Wang Wed, 10 Feb 2010 21:44:38 +0000 http://heartbreaknympho.com/?p=3143#comment-1927 thanks for the comment. i apologize if the language i used was inaccurate, and if it made you feel negatively in any way. i didn't intend to say that even though his gender identity was male, he was "really" female because of his body. granted, i've never heard anyone use the term "female-bodied", it's something i started using myself for lack of knowledge of a better one, so i should have anticipated that it was somehow inaccurate. if you don't mind, i'd appreciate it if you could let me know a better way of describing someone like my friend: who is a man but was female-at-birth/does not have the anatomy one would typically expect a man to have. thanks for the comment. i apologize if the language i used was inaccurate, and if it made you feel negatively in any way. i didn’t intend to say that even though his gender identity was male, he was “really” female because of his body. granted, i’ve never heard anyone use the term “female-bodied”, it’s something i started using myself for lack of knowledge of a better one, so i should have anticipated that it was somehow inaccurate. if you don’t mind, i’d appreciate it if you could let me know a better way of describing someone like my friend: who is a man but was female-at-birth/does not have the anatomy one would typically expect a man to have.

]]> By: jay http://heartbreaknympho.com/2010/02/09/things-i-should-have-said/comment-page-1/#comment-1925 jay Wed, 10 Feb 2010 19:50:56 +0000 http://heartbreaknympho.com/?p=3143#comment-1925 Hi, I followed the track back from the questioning transphobia post you linked. I think it's really cool that you are considering the way you talk about other people and esp talk to other people about trans people and the invasive questions, but i'm not really following your "female-bodied" reference. I know you didn't ask this, but it's important to realize such language can be triggering to a someone like myself, a trans male person just innocently following a link. while i understand some trans men use that terminology and are fine with it (and that's clearly their choice), language like that implies there is a "real" sex, and it's entirely body-based, and often fixed to genital status. Hi, I followed the track back from the questioning transphobia post you linked.
I think it’s really cool that you are considering the way you talk about other people and esp talk to other people about trans people and the invasive questions, but i’m not really following your “female-bodied” reference. I know you didn’t ask this, but it’s important to realize such language can be triggering to a someone like myself, a trans male person just innocently following a link. while i understand some trans men use that terminology and are fine with it (and that’s clearly their choice), language like that implies there is a “real” sex, and it’s entirely body-based, and often fixed to genital status.

]]> By: Wilhelmina Wang http://heartbreaknympho.com/2010/02/09/things-i-should-have-said/comment-page-1/#comment-1918 Wilhelmina Wang Wed, 10 Feb 2010 01:06:16 +0000 http://heartbreaknympho.com/?p=3143#comment-1918 yeah. i'm not exactly beating myself up for it (i do beat myself up a lot, though), but i do want to express my opinions and my dissent more often, both for myself and for the people i'm speaking up for thanks :) yeah. i’m not exactly beating myself up for it (i do beat myself up a lot, though), but i do want to express my opinions and my dissent more often, both for myself and for the people i’m speaking up for

thanks :)

]]> By: Amy http://heartbreaknympho.com/2010/02/09/things-i-should-have-said/comment-page-1/#comment-1915 Amy Tue, 09 Feb 2010 23:54:32 +0000 http://heartbreaknympho.com/?p=3143#comment-1915 It's hard to know what to say in the moment. Peer pressure is a lot to be reckoned with and I wouldn't beat yourself up for not saying the exact right thing *all the time*. But I think it's really admirable that it's something you've thought about and are striving to speak up more, it's something that I need to learn to do as well. It’s hard to know what to say in the moment. Peer pressure is a lot to be reckoned with and I wouldn’t beat yourself up for not saying the exact right thing *all the time*. But I think it’s really admirable that it’s something you’ve thought about and are striving to speak up more, it’s something that I need to learn to do as well.

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