Comments on: Stop with the fucking victim-blaming already.

By: Nadia West

Nadia West — Fri, 09 Jul 2010 22:48:36 +0000

I’m sorry you’ve had a bad experience during your time in NYC. I suspect every woman has been sexually harassed at some point. I know I was before I had even left high school. I know someone in the NYC kink community who was stabbed recently (he’s recovering) defending some women in his group from random assholes walking down the street who decided to sexually harass/assault them. People could accuse the women of “causing” it due to how they might have been dressed, but interesting how no one tells the guy who got stabbed that well, he was asking for it. (He wasn’t, but as a guy this sort of thing doesn’t happen much. Women are easy to blame.)

I’m just now catching up with all this, and damn, the victim blaming has to stop! WTF? Even if a woman behaves in a way that you consider risky, she is NOT AT FAULT FOR SOMEONE RAPING OR SEXUALLY ASSAULTING HER. (I know I’m preaching to the choir.) When will the men take responsibility for that they do?? The guy who sexually assaulted me denied all responsibility and probably still does to this day.

By: Victim blaming bullshit : CyberLizard's Collection

Victim blaming bullshit : CyberLizard's Collection — Fri, 09 Jul 2010 18:08:48 +0000

[...] number of other bloggers have picked up on the story and are also expressing their outrage (I’m sure I missed some, just let me know and I’ll add them). [...]

By: Britni TheVadgeWig

Britni TheVadgeWig — Fri, 09 Jul 2010 14:30:59 +0000

Thank you so much for this.

And I’m sorry for what you’ve gone through. I’m sorry for all of us. No one deserves that, and I’m glad you’re okay.

By: I Can’t Even

I Can’t Even — Fri, 09 Jul 2010 14:28:08 +0000

[...] I have the best internet friends in the history of ever. Thank you Ashley, Elodie, Saraid, Wilhelmina Wang, and Splendwhore for actually taking space on your own blogs to talk about this and defend me (if I [...]

By: Diva

Diva — Fri, 09 Jul 2010 11:30:06 +0000

Thanks for writing this. I was unaware of that other post until seeing this one and I’m appalled that someone would post something that is so clearly victim blaming. It is especially sad when it comes from what we consider a sex positive person/site.

I’m sorry you had a bad experience already in NYC and hope I get to see you at some point again while you’re here.

By: Epiphora

Epiphora — Fri, 09 Jul 2010 08:27:52 +0000

I’m so sorry about that harassment you endured. It sickens me. You’re absolutely right that all of this stuff has been written to death in the blogosphere, but yeah, apparently some people think that victim-blaming is new, edgy, and worth spending time doing. And that is sad.
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