The World Needs More Porn!

Porn and sex work will always exist; why not stake a claim in it and work to create more liberties and spaces for our own representations? As Annie Sprinkle has said, “The Answer to bad porn isn’t no porn… it’s to try and make better porn!” (And for me, this means more porn.)

- Jiz Lee, in this interview with Rabbit White

Last spring, I caught a ride with a co-worker for some work-related thing and (of course!) we started talking about porn. I’m not sure how we got into the topic, but she had a young son at home and worried about his one day being exposed to porn via the internet. She was quite a progressive lady and wasn’t worried about him watching porn in general, she just worried about how he might start thinking that everything that happened in porn also happened in reality, and that he’d internalize unhealthy views about sex as a result. I could see her point. While I watch and enjoy porn, there is definitely a lot of “bad” porn out there.

And with regards to that, I agree with Annie Sprinkle and Jiz Lee. The answer to bad porn isn’t to try to eliminate or censor it all completely, but to make more porn! Better porn, more diverse porn, porn that we want to see. And in that spirit, here’s what I want to see more of in porn:

I want to see more beautiful men. Not just hot or handsome – beautiful. I want to see men who are coy, men who are pretty, men who are delicate, and men who are vulnerable.

I want to see more porn actresses who look like me: short, chubby, brown women.

I want to see more female tops who look like me.

I want to see more female tops (performing with male bottoms) period.

I want to see more female tops whose topping styles I actually like. Read: less high-pitched yelling; more understated, low-voiced commands, with all the power, instead, in her glance.

I want to see more female tops who aren’t decked out in uber-feminine, domme gear like corsets and high heels. Don’t get me wrong, I like corsets and high heels, and sometimes I want to see corsets and high heels. But sometimes I don’t. Sometimes I want to see female tops who aren’t uber-feminine. Or who, again, are understated and don’t need to perform their dominance through their clothing, they just do it.

I want to see more cunnilingus. I love being eaten out; I love it when my partner obviously enjoys eating me out, and I want to see more of that sort of thing in porn. There is so much head-giving in porn. As in cis-women giving cis-men head. So many blowjobs. I do not like watching blowjobs. I like giving blowjobs, but watching blowjobs is boring. Yawn. I’m fed up of seeing blowjobs¹. I want to see women getting eaten out, I want to see close-ups of her partner’s tongue against her clit, and I want to see both her and her partner enjoying the hell out of it.

I want to see more porn performers who look like ordinary people.

I want to see more porn featuring gay men, but geared towards women.

I want to see more lesbian sex that looks real, not just like eye-candy for the men.

I want to see more safe sex. Safe sex is sexy too.

I want to see more behind-the-scenes commentary.

I want to see more genders being represented besides cis-men and cis-women.

I want to see porn that isn’t all about the money shot.

What kind of porn do you want to see?

This post is part of a blogosphere-wide carnival called Lady Porn Day! Read more Lady Porn Day posts or keep up with the discussion on Twitter under the hashtag #ladypornday.

1. I do, however, love seeing people receiving head if they’re wearing a strap-on. [↩]

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