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How to deal with annoying Fetlifers

By Wilhelmina Wang On June 27, 2011 · 3 Comments · In asshats, BDSM, Friends & Lovers, M, Uncategorized

Trigger warning: racist & sexist slurs

A chatlog? Haven’t done one of these in a while. Anyway, here is a chatlog between me and one of my (white, straight, cisgendered, male, top) friends.

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Wilhelmina: i wish random fetlifers i don’t know would stop trying to come on to me via messages

Wilhelmina: this [...]

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I’m not comfortable talking about sexuality in a public forum.

By Wilhelmina Wang On April 6, 2011 · 5 Comments · In life, reflections, sex

It’s sad, but true.

I was going to write a post that was more or less the opposite of the above title. A few months ago, me and L had a threesome with another guy (who I’ll call X in this post) at our college. Since our college is on the [...]

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The Wonderful World of Slashfic and Yaoi, and How it Informed my Awakening Sexuality

By Wilhelmina Wang On February 22, 2011 · 10 Comments · In field notes, life, porn, reflections, sex fantasy, wanking

Or: The “Porn” I consumed as a 14-year-old.

Disclaimer: I don’t profess to be an expert on this topic. As with practically everything else on this blog, it’s all drawn from my personal experience, and the examples I’m giving are in no way representative of the fandoms as a whole, since there are [...]

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“Kink” is a Matter of Perspective

By Wilhelmina Wang On February 7, 2011 · 4 Comments · In field notes, life

Ask a BDSMer if they think strap-on sex is “kinky” and the answer is often no. Ask a “vanilla” college student the same question and the answer is almost always “yes.” That’s a telling and important difference and I urge us to honor that reality, for our own benefit, and the benefit of the sexual [...]

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I don’t much like playing games

By Wilhelmina Wang On January 16, 2011 · 2 Comments · In Gender, life, reflections

During my “wild” college days, one thing that bothered me about the flirting dynamic, or whatever you want to call it, was how I would say “I’m sorry, I’m not romantically/sexually interested in you” and sometimes the other person wouldn’t take me at my word.

Instead, they’d take that as an indication to try harder [...]

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Shoe Slut

By Wilhelmina Wang On December 29, 2010 · 8 Comments · In fashion, Uncategorized

A little shoe porn for you. I have an unhealthy attraction to utterly ridiculous shoes. Low, sensible heels just… don’t do it for me. Maybe it stems from the fact that I’m short? Not that I’d be able to wear any of these in real life, ever, but I can dream, right?

Camilla Skovgaard

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Banners & Commissions

By Wilhelmina Wang On November 29, 2010 · Leave a Comment · In blogging, Uncategorized

Just a heads-up that I have two new pages. If you want to link to me for some reason, now you have banners to do it with! Also, I recently started writing copy for two sex toy stores (fyi, this has absolutely no bearing on reviews or content that appears here), so I [...]

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“Don’t look so sad, beautiful.”

By Wilhelmina Wang On September 2, 2010 · 11 Comments · In feminism, field notes, life

…That’s what some guy said to me when I was on the way home one day, around when I just moved to NYC. I think I responded by ignoring him and continuing on my way. Maybe I rolled my eyes. When I got home, I tweeted irritably about it on my vanilla Twitter account. One [...]

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