Claiming (4/4): A Postscript on Power

By On April 21, 2010 · 1 Comment · In BDSM, bottom/object, in retrospect, intimacy, reflections, relationships, sex, Sir

This is a series I started a while ago, around October 2009, but never finished. It’s kind of stale now so I don’t want to continue it. I wrote this post as a planned ending, and I’m posting it now because I think it’s important for me to say it, though I didn’t [...]

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Oasis

By On April 13, 2010 · 4 Comments · In J, reflections, relationships

[Press Play]

So, me and J broke up.

Most of my friends (online and offline) and family have reacted with surprise, and for good reason: this all seems very sudden, but in fact it has been a slow build-up that started [...]

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Compartments

By On March 9, 2010 · Leave a Comment · In Friends & Lovers, J, reflections, relationships, the Professional, the Rationalist

Before I started dating J, I went “hunting” a lot. Often, I didn’t begin the night with that as my intention; it’s not like I went out and planned to spend my night looking for someone to bang. That’s just what I ended up doing. (Well, along with socializing and drinking and all that other [...]

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A Journey

By On January 31, 2010 · 1 Comment · In intimacy, J, life, love, reflections, relationships

We need a witness to our lives. There’s a billion people on the planet… I mean, what does any one life really mean? But in a marriage, you’re promising to care about everything. The good things, the bad things, the terrible things, the mundane things… all of it, all of the time, every [...]

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Claiming (3/4): “Go pantiless after.”

By On January 19, 2010 · 29 Comments · In BDSM, bottom/object, Erotica, in retrospect, journal, long distance, relationships, sex, sex in odd places, Sir, wanking

I suppose I should finish what I started… wrote most of this a while ago.

These events occurred circa. October 2009. Read part 1 and part 2.

[via Maria's Photo]

Day #2, continued.

The first thing he wanted to do was make use of me [...]

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A Guiding Hand

By On December 30, 2009 · 1 Comment · In BDSM, bottom/object, Erotica, fiction, intimacy, J, sex fantasy, versatile/fluid

Hey, so, Merry Christmas (if you celebrate it) and happy holidays and such. I’ve been spending a lot of time hanging out with family and friends and such and oddly haven’t been in the mood for blogging, until now. Being apart for a month can do that to you, I guess.

I’m quite aware that [...]

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Claiming (2/4): “Assume the position.”

By On November 28, 2009 · 24 Comments · In BDSM, bottom/object, cybersex, Erotica, exhibitionism & voyeurism, in retrospect, journal, long distance, sex, sex fantasy, sex in odd places, Sir, spanking, wanking

These events took place circa. October 2009. Read part 1 here.

Day #2

Two days later, on a typically doleful Monday, I was at work when Sir emailed me. He was at work, too, and was having a stressful day. He asked me if I was up to helping him “relieve [...]

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Claiming (1/4): “I want to brutalize you.”

By On November 25, 2009 · 6 Comments · In BDSM, bottom/object, cybersex, Erotica, in retrospect, intimacy, journal, long distance, sex, Sir, spanking

These events took place circa October 2009.

Recently, I found a hot new person to play with. Well – “new” is not entirely correct. We’ve known each other for quite a while, but this is the first time he has expressed desire for me. Sure, we flirted casually [...]

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Gift

By On November 13, 2009 · 28 Comments · In BDSM, domme/top, Erotica, in retrospect, intimacy, kinda sorta awk, sex, spanking, the Optimist

To avoid confusion, I’m adding a new category called “in retrospect” in order to differentiate posts where I’m talking about something that happened in the past, as opposed to posts where I’m talking about things that are currently happening. This post looks pretty weird juxtaposed with my last one, but what can you [...]

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Wait, what? Really?

By On November 11, 2009 · 3 Comments · In intimacy, J, life, non-monogamy, reflections, relationships

Apologies in advance to twitter friends and other friends who I’ve been talking about this incessantly to, already. You’re probably fed up of hearing about it ^^; This will probably be the last I’ll be saying about this for now.

So… I have an announcement to make. Of sorts.

I am [...]

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